Misleading Interviews

I feel hurt for ABBA when people are mean to them or insult them, or try to make them look bad. In every interview I've ever watched - and I think I've watched almost every one on Youtube - the interviewer always has to say something nasty. It's either embarrassing, insulting, upsetting, rude, misleading, confusing, or nosy. I know it's an interviewer's job to get information that excites people, but that doesn't mean they have to go around trying to upset, confuse, or embarrass people.
In one interview, I thought that for once the interviewers were being nice, because they seems to agree with ABBA about how awful it is for people to misrepresent them and make up things about them. Then one guy had to ask what some of the things were, which is a nasty question, considering some of the things people say about them. And I remember seeing someone deliberately try to upset Agnetha by asking her how it is to leave her daughter for weeks at a time. In fact, it makes the interviews almost impossible to enjoy.
I know there are much better questions that interviewers could have asked, like "How do you think up new songs?" and stuff like that, that fans really want to know. and my question is, "Why didn't they?" I feel that almost all interviewers are desperate to get out false or personal information on people, and I don't think it's fair. In fact, not just in ABBA interviews (although I've only seen a few others), but in every interview with anyone I've ever seen, the interviewer has asked or said something horrible. Even in a Doctor Who interview, Tom Baker was asked how he felt about the fact that the show terrified young children. I must say that he handled it perfectly, and shot the question down, but what kind of a question is that to ask an actor? I love writing, singing, and acting, and I hope to have one or more of those as a career one day, and all I can say is, if I ever get famous for anything, one of my highest concerns will be interviews.